Living and teaching overseas can draw you closer as a couple as you share new experiences, make friends and explore cultures together. Yet, consider that while exciting and fulfilling, international living can also be ultra-challenging and may be the ultimate test of the strength of a couple’s relationship.
Here are some examples of comments ISR has received regarding the special circumstances that living internationally can impose on relationships:
“My wife and I, with our two elementary age children, moved overseas and it’s been the best thing in the world for our relationship and kids. We’re each other’s support team and the experience of living and sharing the overseas teaching experience has made us ever more close as a couple and a family. After 12 years overseas we’re moving home this year to be with aging parents. I’m nervous how our relationship will do when exposed to the culture of divorce in the United States. I’d really like to hear from anyone who has been through this.”
“My boyfriend and I just signed a contract for 2 years in South America. We have been under tremendous stress lately, and our relationship is suffering. He has only taught for 2 years and isn’t even positive he wants to teach. So, we’re currently “taking a break.” Do you think the school will still take me if he backs out? If we do decide (during the course of our contract) to break up, what happens? If you have any experience with this or know someone who does, please share. I’m upset, concerned, and anxious.”
I started overseas as a single man and married after I arrived at my school. My wife is not a US citizen. When it came time to move to my new school I paid all her expenses. She lives with me on campus. My school director and school staff were great in helping to get her visa. I am just really thankful for my director who has been great. I’m sure other international educators have married host country nationals. I’d love to know about their experience.”